I've been focusing on all negativity with my posts lately.....I've talked too much about people not saying anything or saying stupid things.....but I never mentioned the nice things that people have done.
So tonight is all about saying thanks:
When Ian passed we received about 5 or 6 cards in the mail and I remember being grateful that someone cared enough about us to do that. Our close friend "A" looked up all kinds of info to try to help us....she was at a loss for words, but wanted to be there for us and not say something that might have been upsetting for us, and even made cupcakes for him on his birthday. Another close friend "S" offered to come by and straighten my hair.....she knows it relaxes me, but instead she went shopping with me for new jeans b/c I refused to wear my maternity pants. A coworker made me a beautiful Easter corsage/bouquet that had 3 eggs on it:1 for each of my 3 children. Another coworker, gave us a card with a $15.00 gift card to subway the Friday before Mother's day because she knew it was going to be a difficult weekend. A friend from High School emailed me to check up on me, she lost her son and knew the pain that came with it.....Recently another coworker, talked with me about Ian, and told me of her sister's stillborn baby girl, and let me know that she would be there whenever I felt like talking. I've also had a few very special people share with me their own stories of miscarriage and loss.....and even a few people who just let me know that they care.....
To everyone who's helped me: THANK YOU! I have complained and complained and complained about people not caring, and while I have found that more people don't care, or at least not care enough to say anything, I DO have people that CARE! People who've let me know that I don't have to grieve on my own! People who LOVE me and recognize my Ian. Again: THANK YOU! I am very blessed to have you in my life!